Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy and gratitude into our lives. ~ Brene Brown
What does it mean to be honest with yourself? Do you know what is truly in your heart? How do you discover your authentic truth and express it in the world?
Some of life’s chaos, struggle and pain come from not being honest with yourself. When you feel duty-bound to please others, your core values and genuine needs will be suppressed in order to follow others’ requirements of you. When your truth is held back long enough, you can lose touch with it. That’s when expression of what really matters to you can be difficult if not impossible.
You lie to yourself every day in big and small ways –
- You follow the rules whether they feel right to you or not,
- You say ‘yes’ when you would rather say ‘no’,
- You tend to be more tactful than truthful in communicating with others
- You cover up your perceived imperfections for fear of judgment from others
- You avoid or lie your way out of unpleasant interactions with others to avoid conflict
- You deny what’s really important to you (your desires don’t matter, you say you are okay when you really are upset or angry)
- You fake excitement and commit to something that is really of little interest to you
- You believe what the irrational, angry, critical voices inside your head say rather than connect what is really true about you.
Buried under the rubble of these untruths is your true essence and authentic self that needs to see the light of day.
Because being compassionately honest with yourself, then with others, is your ticket to freedom. It’s your ‘get out of jail’ card from suppression of who you truly are. When you act as you feel, you live life with integrity and you free up space within you so you can embrace the limitless possibility life can offer. As the opening quote suggests – it is the path to grace, joy and gratitude
Finding your truth begins at home with internal exploration:
- Set yourself free with Breathwork
The whole business of becoming conscious is about bringing light into that which is in the dark: Bringing our unconscious emotions, thoughts and beliefs into the light of consciousness and releasing them. Breathwork is a powerful tool designed to bring perspective to the process! The intelligence of your breath will free deeper, blocked feelings and find its way to your true essence. It is that powerful!
- Embrace Self-Reflection through Meditation and Journaling
Take some dedicated time in silence to ask yourself some vital questions that will help you get to the voice of your authenticity. With each answer, journal what comes to mind. Write freely without editing:
- Who would you be, how would you be different if you were completely free to be your real self?
- Write about a time when you were not honest with yourself. What did it feel like? What emotions or thoughts were present in your consciousness? Did you beat yourself up? Were you compassionate and kind to yourself?
- Mindfulness and awareness of your heart’s communication
As you go through your day, invite your most sincere and honest voice to communicate clearly with you. Always ask why you are behaving a certain way. Being mindful and aware of the small inner voice helps bring clarity to your true responses and inner communication.
- Self-Compassion, Self-Forgiveness and Self-Love
At your core, you are pure love. Learning to forgive yourself opens the possibility to step away from victimhood or feelings of helplessness. Accept that hiding from what is true, whether it is positive or negative will only create more inner separation and generate another layer of lies to cover up what you see as unpleasant about you.
When you know the workings of your own motives and behaviours, you can grow to love yourself in all situations and reclaim lost parts of you. In that wholeness, you are far more capable and empowered to speak your truth with the same kindness and compassion for others that you have learned to give yourself.
Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. ~ Shannon L. Alder
Our next post will look at how to Speak Your Truth