When we deny our own truth, we deny our own potential ~ Steve Maraboli
What motivates you?
Have you ever taken the time to listen, really listen, to the thoughts that roll through your head everyday? Those thoughts source from a special type of thinking that you formulate in your life as you grow up. They are influenced by repetitive phrases and teachings that you absorbed from those around you as you were growing up – your parents, siblings, and society. Those beliefs and values may seem like your truth but are they really your heart-based truth or just the set of rules you have been given by others that you simply follow?
What lies do you tell yourself? How do you even know you are lying to yourself? If your repetitive thoughts send you into overwhelm, exhaustion, depression, anxiety, or create unnecessary stress in your life, you might need to take some time to reflect on what you roll through your brain as life directives versus what your heart holds as your personal, unvarnished truth.
Try this ->
Review the Lyin’ To Yourself Checklist items and pick your top three:
- I am not good enough…or thin enough, perfect enough, beautiful enough or smart enough to do what I want to do. I will fail
- I am not loveable enough…to have fulfilling relationships with others
- The busier I am, the more noble and admired my efforts will be viewed, the more respect and regard I will receive from others
- Money equals abundance and security
- It is never okay to say ‘no’
- Being busy means I am productive and worthwhile and doing something important
- If I am not busy, I am lazy
- Being needed means I am loved and safe
- Everything matters and is important
- I must stay relevant and keep up with the latest trends
- Once I get ‘there’, I can relax, lose weight, meditate more…
- If I wait long enough, something good will naturally happen without any effort on my part
- Bad things just happen to me – I have a ‘victim’ target on my back
- I have no choice – I am stuck where I am (this is my life) and I cannot change it
- Other people’s opinions of my actions matter to me – I don’t want to look stupid or crazy
- I don’t deserve to be happy
- I am not anything special my voice or gifts don’t really matter
- I never get anything right. I am not okay.
What to do about it in Two Steps…
Using your top three “self-lies”, write up three steps you can take right now to change your thinking.
Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably for a few minutes. Begin to breathe slowly, holding the intention to hear your own truth as opposed to the lies you have been telling yourself all this time.
1] Ask yourself with each of your three options:
- How has my belief in this lie harmed me in life?
- Can I really trust and believe this is true for me? Or does it have the “voice” of someone from my past?
- What is my higher truth in this statement (Am I really wanting love, acceptance, connection?)
- What thinking do I need to change to turn my self-lies into self-truth and self-love?
2] Review My Affirmations Guide and choose a path to retraining your thoughts using this program.
Beginning to let go of beliefs and values that don’t hold water in your life takes dedication to be your own ‘thought detective’. It takes becoming aware of what thoughts you pay attention to every day and noticing how that affects your sense of inner balance and self-love.
Why does examining and following your deepest truth matter? In our warp-speed world of ‘doing’, it offers peace, less stress, and the courage to make choices that fit with who you are. It empowers love and fuels what is important to you – in short, you live from your essence and you are free.
Live from the heart of yourself. Seek to be whole, not perfect ~ Oprah